Marriage is one thing that can make or marred a man or a woman,it’s something that should be handled with all amount of care. To have a successful marriage life, you need to practise selfless lifestyle to your partner
Love…is not…self-seeking.
1 CORINTHIANS 13:4-5 NIV
An elderly couple celebrating their fiftieth anniversary had no A secrets, except for a shoe box the wife had always kept hidden under the bed. She agreed to let her husband look inside. When he did he found two crocheted dolls and $50,000 in cash. “Years ago,” she explained, “my mother told me that the secret to a happy marriage was never to argue. Instead, when I got angry I should keep quiet and crochet a doll.” Her husband was delighted; she’d only been angry at him twice in fifty years! “Honey,” he said, “that explains the dolls, but what about the $50,000?” “Oh,” she replied smiling, “that’s from selling dolls!”
Marriage therapy often calls for “active listening,” and affirming your spouse through paraphrasing, validation, and positive feedback. But research shows that many couples aren’t always happy with the results and problems still recur. Dr. John Gottman says, “That’s because we’re asking people to do Olympic-style gymnastics when they can hardly crawl!” Instead, Dr. Susan Boon recommends identifying the issues that must be resolved-and learning to live with the rest! Work around them, commit to staying together, and for every nega- tive experience look for five positive ones to balance it out. Dirty socks, snoring, thermostat settings, unmade beds-our habits can drive our partners crazy. We must learn to “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ” (Eph 5:21 NIV), and remember, “Love…is not rude…self-seeking…easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs” (1Co 13:4-5 NIV). Well, how are you doing so far?
It’s a practice step in doing what the bible tells us that will actually make our marriage enjoyable one rather than endureable one. Keep the marriage fire burning with love always and the Lord Jesus will see us through Amen.
