Today, we will be looking at this powerful command that apostle paul through the holy ghost instruct the men to do to their wives. He said in Ephesians 5:25-33 and this instructions goes to every both partners,no one is without duty to render to each other,hear what he said
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
When you care more about pleasing yourself than pleasing your Partner, your marriage is in trouble. Most marriages fail for one reason-selfishness. “Just give me a few more months. I’ll have this project at work behind me and things will get back to normal.” How many wives have heard this from their husband when they try to let him know they need more of his time and attention? And what happens? The project gets finished and he gets involved in something else just as demanding. Because her needs keep going unmet, hopelessness and resentment set in and she forms a protective shell.
Often at this point the husband is clueless. He says things like, “I work hard. I bring my money home. I’m not running around on you.” And then the big one: “I’m doing all this for you.” But his wife didn’t marry a business or a paycheck, she married him. And there is absolutely nothing he can do to replace himself in her life, no matter what he gives her. That’s why when many couples had less, they had everything because they had each other. Now they have everything, but they have nothing.-
Once that hard shell forms it’s hard to penetrate. And worse, the statistics of divorce prove that very few men have the patience to do it. That’s when they get attracted to other women. But the flame of love can melt that hard shell. If you start where you are and commit yourself to loving your wife [or husband] all over again, God will help you to rekindle that flame again to each other in Jesus mighty name.Amen.
